A prominent member of our community has been using lies, false stories without proof (that were not hers to tell) and harassment to defame others and spread her own opinion. Due to her position in the community, the (commendable) desire most people have to support perceived victims, and fear of public backlash from those who might oppose her, her misrepresentations have mostly gone unchallenged.
As one of her victims, I can no longer remain quiet about her lies and harassment. For all these years I felt unable to act, felt that nobody would believe me.
Thanks to the people who have supported me, including one whose story she abused, that has changed. I am deeply grateful for all your help. I could not have done this without you.
This document contains proof, beyond a reasonable doubt, that her actions were calculated and intentional. That she knowingly spread falsehoods for her own agenda, abusing the victim's voice.
Each story has a summary sentence at the beginning of the stories.
To my fans: I understand if this situation leaves you frustrated. As always, I kindly ask you to stay out of this. Liking/sharing is okay.
Great care has been taken to ensure the accuracy of the statements here. If you would like to give feedback, corrections, know more or otherwise: Contact me
This document does not take away any of my own responsibilities to the people hurt and is only intended to reveal enduring bullying and abuse. Despite the further damage and the added difficulty for open communication that Nath’s behavior has caused, those hurt have been apologized to both publicly (1, 2) and privately, and comforted whenever possible.
This document only contains the most prominent & clear issues. Most of the harassment and questionable proof has been left out for clarity.
All evidence in this document is either public or has been shared with permission.
In this document, she is always referred to as Nath for consistency. She is known on various platforms as:
FetLife: Nath, Discord: Nathree, Reddit: EmpatheticBadger, Tumblr: WrittenByNath & ultinath, Twitter: Introspective Nath
Describing events in 2010, where I made a big mistake in how I treated A. It is still something I deeply regret in how it happened.
Because of the age of this story, no screenshots are available of the original post or A’s comments underneath it.
https://fetlife.com/users/2200554/posts/4659605 - A consent violation in hypnokink (removed January 2018)
The timeline of the story is about events 7 years prior, however, Nath phrased it as if it happened very recently.
https://fetlife.com/users/520858/posts/4661290 - This contains more detail about the story, including my apology for the mistakes that I made.
A. contacts me through FetLife to ask why her comments were removed. I had not removed any comments from my post, it turned out she was talking about her comments on Nath’s post.
Posted 2 weeks after B. and I had a falling out for private reasons. B. vented her frustration at Nath, who used her story without consent. When B. contacted me again (as friends) to share good news, she was not aware of what Nath had published.
The following proof from B. has been shared with her consent. Anything identifying or unrelated to this story has been blacked out to protect her privacy.
https://fetlife.com/users/2200554/posts/5740094
Full text, from the later tumblr post
Noteworthy post contents
https://www.reddit.com/r/EroticHypnosis/comments/cvkvql/jukebox_writes_something_serious/ey8x8tk/
She speaks of the story as proof in the third person: "She wrote", instead of taking ownership.
B. contacts me on Discord to happily tell me of her new dominant. When I told her of Nath's post, B.’s reaction confirms that she was unaware. B's reaction was one of anger and disbelief.
In an email conversation, B. tells me how it all happened, further confirming Nath's words are misleading and that Nath exploited private conversations.
Further in the same email conversation, B. confirms she sent Nath a message to take it down. B. also shares she feels used and tainted due to Nath's actions.
https://writtenbynath.tumblr.com/post/187197010394/the-value-of-stories
No change to the text.
A post that combined Story 1 (initially) and opinions to attempt to be presented as fact, no proof given.
https://fetlife.com/users/2200554/posts/5449336 - Why there is such a rift in the Dutch hypnokink community
Several paragraphs were added. No proof was added.
Noteworthy contents
Changing the first paragraph and title, to add my name and a reference to my YouTube channel.
If you have any first-hand reports of harassment or lies by Nath, you can contact me.
By their request, a smaller version of this post was shared with the eQuake organization. This and other matching reports made them decide to ban Nath from attending or presenting at the event.
She (Nath) was banned for scurrilous, false, and painful defamatory on-line statements that lead to a loss of reputation and worse.
- eQuake 2020 organizers
This information is shared with consent of the eQuake organizers, contact them for more details.
Nath has repeatedly been shown to blatantly lie or misreport to get her opinion seen as fact. Her campaigning methods often cross the borders of harassment, using "the end justifies the means" regardless of accuracy.
The ability for victims to speak up is paramount in a society that too often ignores those hurt. By abusing this system, she calls into question genuine calls for help. In this, she has done irreparable damage to many involved.
By bringing this pattern to light, we can perhaps move forward to more open and honest communication as a community.